As I navigate this season of my life, no longer homeschooling and now working part-time outside the home, I have struggled a bit meeting expectations as far as a “newer” division of responsibilities in the home.
I have been a traditional homemaker for 22 of the last 23 years. I have cooked, cleaned, and cared for my home managing the finances as well as the education of the children. That’s how my husband and I wanted it.
Now that I spend part of my week outside the home it’s been much more challenging for me to meet those homemaking goals. Bringing in a house cleaning service or hiring a mothers helper is not an option. I bow to you ladies who have managed your home while holding down full or part-time work all while raising your children. Too many balls in the air for me, especially with all the specialized care Miss Courtney requires.
So I asked my husband to think like a CEO and write me a new (if your world was perfect) job description to help me manage and meet expectations, both mine and his. Here is what he wrote:
(Do you think he noticed the HUGE pile of laundry that ate our sofa?)
(I think I may need to attend Clutter Anonymous)
(What? You don’t want to write love letters in my dust?)
(That would mean you would need to be home by six…or there may be bean sprouts…just sayin’)
( I am the Casserole Queen…ya know in Minnesota they call them the “Hot Dish!”…wink, wink)…)
(as long as it involves a drive by at Starbucks, I am cool with that)
(This translates into “I buy shoes, you get bacon wrapped shrimp AND get to pick the movie.”)
D. Domestic Arts
(I just cleaned out this child’s closets. It was like going through the local Macy’s. No problem meeting this expectation)
(It would be awesome…)
(except for the Relevant Conference in October and the WRW Event in November…etc…etc…etc…)
2. Weekend activities should be limited to close corporate partners, required familial engagements (no more than once a quarter), and vocational activities.
( You love my family and you know it!)
(Dismemberment? Blood? What exactly do you plan on doing in our house? Playing American Gladiator?)
My guy covets family time together on the weekends and wanted to make sure we leave as much of that time open for each other without being bogged down by a ton of chores. I agree so I am willing to do the errands and grocery shopping during the week.
How do you and your husband deal with re-defining roles as the seasons of life change in your home?
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